How do I word an email to my sons teacher?

My son (who is in kindergarten) has been complaining about not wanting to go to school, so I want to email his teacher and ask if she would allow me to sit in on one of his classes so i can observe him and also see what exactly it is that he does in computer class (since that is what he says he doesn't like)...but i don't know how to word the email. can i say something like...





Dear (?) Ms. so and so,


I am just wondering if I would be allowed to sit in on one of your classes to see how my son is doing. He has mentioned that he doesn't like computer class for some reason and i would like to sit with him and see what it is that he does.





Does that sound ok?


I would appreciate your inputs...Thanks!!
How do I word an email to my sons teacher?
Instead of being an observer, offer to help out for the day. That will be better received, a great help to the teacher, and you can see how he interacts with the other kids, his teacher, etc.





Do it for a few days. Then if you notice anything that does puzzle you, sit down with the teacher over coffee, and ask her about it. There might be a good explanation.
Reply:You should definitely contact your son's teacher. It is unusual for a kindergarten student to not like school, unless this is just a case of "wanting to stay at home with Mommy because I miss her." There are many things that could be going on that your son just isn't able to express. (Bullying, classes are too hard, too easy, etc.) The teacher will probably be thrilled that you contacted her and will also be glad to know that your son has an involved parent. (So many these days are not!) If the teacher is at all hesitant for you to come in, I would be concerned and contact the school principal. This could be a sign of an unexperienced teacher, and you may want to see about having your son reassigned to a different classroom. E-mailing the teacher is fine. Your letter is good, or try calling the teacher.


A word of caution, for any parent. If your child is using a computer lab at school that is connected to the Internet, you should definitely go in and observe the computer class sometime. When I was teaching, 5 years ago, I refused to take students to the computer lab. With the way it was set up, there was no way for me to monitor all 30 kids and make sure they were where they were supposed to be on the web. You CAN state that your child is not allowed to use the internet at school.
Reply:First of all you do not want to tell the teacher why you want to set in on the class, this may offend her, and you want to see all that happens.





Here is what you need to Say





Dear Ms. So and so,





I would like to spend a day with my son in class, as I am curious about my son's day. I was wondering if there was a convenient time for me to do this? I am most curious about his activities during computer time as this strikes my interest. Thank you so much for your cooperation, and I look forward to spending the day with you.





Thank you





Your name





If she asks why you would like to spend the day be vague because you want to know what is going on with your child. Spending the day with your child should not be a problem, but let the teacher say when. You want to be vague because if the teacher suspects that there is a problem she may doctor things up a bit, I am sorry to say that many will do this. No one wants to think that there is something wrong with the teacher, but you need to know these things. Hopefully nothing is wrong. We want to find out for certain.





I have delt with this and found out the hard way that my son was being mistreated by the teacher, he was not being hurt physically, but the teacher was using demeaning language. It took me a while to find out because I kept warning her.





You do have a right as a parent to show up unannouced and ask the principal if you can set in on your childs class, but you can bet your bottom dollar that this will not go over well.





Hope that this helps.
Reply:I think it sounds fine. As a teacher myself, I always encourage parents to come and observe my classes. I think it sounds like you are interested in seeing what goes on, along with trying to help solve the problem about why your child does not want to go to school.
Reply:I would say





Dear Ms. so and so,


After speaking with (insert sons name) I have become concerned with some of his schooling and would like to know if (insert date) is a good day for me to come sit and observe him in school. I would also like to know if (insert same date) is a day he will be using the computer as that is where some of my concerns come from. Please get back to me as soon as possible. Thank you for your time and understanding,


(Your signature)





Don't ask for permission to be active in his education!! Just do it. Tell her when you are coming and be there. My daughter is in 2nd grade and I have done that before. You, as a parent, should not have to ask to see what is going on with your son. Good job being an active parent.
Reply:Go on the schools website there should be a link that says teacher emails or sometin like that! Good luck maybe you can send a note with your child too it might be because he misses you too
Reply:i think before actually sitting in on the class, which may be a little embarrassing for your son, I would ask the teacher if you could meet with her after school one day to discuss the issue. I know my daughter would kill me if I sat in on one of her classes. Otherwise, your wording of the e-mail sounds great.
Reply:Is there a reason you dont want to go and talk to her? Face to face conversation is more telling than an email. I would say go talk to her or call her on the phone before sending her an email.
Reply:Rather than ask Can I? state... I would like to sit in on the class when would it suit you. My son is upset in computer class and I would like to especially sit in and see if we can figure out why.


You need to make the teacher a part of the solution. She is seeing him more than you do at the moment in a completely different environment. She is there and can help deal with issues as they arrive. Can you even just go to the school to discuss this with her in person?. It may be she can deal with it herself. You need to let her know what is going on. She can't help if she doesn't know.


If you do sit in it may be your son will cling to you and you will not get the answers you need. He will not act in his usual way if you are there
Reply:Your telephone doesn't work?
Reply:That should be fine.
Reply:Your best bet would be to set up an appointment and talk to her about your concerns before you go any further. If you go and sit in on the class you will not get a good idea of what is going on because your son will not behave the same with you there as he does when you are not. She may have some insight as to what is going on and can talk to you about it.





You could also see if the school uses classroom cameras and you can request that your son be recorded while working on the computers so that you can see what he does. Some also have 2 way mirrors so that you can watch your child. Do they have anything like that? One of those options would be better than sitting in the class with him.
Reply:First and foremost, you have every right to contact teacher and discuss situation. If possible, You should set up a meeting at a convenient time. I dont know what the policies are at your school but as a teacher from a public school and private school background, yould be wise to check. Most teachers are asked to follow protocol so if teachers at your particular school dont allow parent phone calls at the teacher's home, then emails are off limits also. A note with request to meet or statement of problem would be best. Also some traditonal private schools frown upon the open door policy of parents sitting in on class. Just something to be aware of. Im guessing if its just computer class, it just may be that your child is uncomfortable with that type of new skill. Plus, at that age level, most computer classes are very time limited per child so it may just be he is not getting enough time on as he would like*more structure)-- translating it into this isnt like my other k activities, so i dont like it.Good luck!!!
Reply:A good teacher will have no problem with you being there. You should be welcome to come in at anytime. Your son (and other kids) may act differently with you there, though, so keep that in mind. Make sure he knows that you are just watching, and he still has to do his normal schoolwork. Also, I would sit quietly in the back, not with him.





Your email does sound good though!
Reply:Sounds good to me too! And kudos for taking the step to see whats up at his school. :-)